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Christian Coercion

Sex and faith both are compulsory under Christianity, no one is truly free to choose either.

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Apr 12

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The Knight & The Pixie

Objectification is more than sexual and we’ve all done it.

Mar 29

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Soul Ties: a Recipe for Healing

Exploring a “soul tie” connection that leads to intense accelerated healing—if you’re up to the challenge

Feb 1

11:38

Radical Autonomy

Putting you and me before our relationship is what makes it free and safe from control.

Jan 19

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Coercing Myself?

What does it look like to consent to myself and what do I do when my body is saying no to something my mind wants to happen?

Dec 28, 2025

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Nat LaJune

Nat LaJune

Lover, Mother, Writer, Poet I write about sex, love, and psychic shit

Always Mending

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Rape With No Rapist?

What do you do if you’re experiencing all the symptoms of rape but your husband isn’t coercive?

May 8

4:15

Don’t tell her you’ll leave, just go

This man doesn’t want to talk to his wife unless he’s telling her all about how she’s not meeting his needs and how he’s going to leave her if she…

May 7

1:40

When he doesn’t recognize assault and calls it an “everyday situation”

May 3

1:49

When the Bible says you can’t say no, that’s rape by proxy.

Apr 30

1:53

Coercion is Still Rape

The body is experiencing the same thing whether it’s being held down psychologically or physically

Apr 19

0:57

Marital Rape Isn’t News

This isn’t men hypothetically discussing rape. They’re acting it out in their homes and under your nose.

Apr 17

0:59

When he doesn’t post you

Love isn’t a cage with a master who tells you what to do Love is free to show off the best parts of you

Apr 16

1:19

Nervous System Doesn’t Care

The nervous system doesn’t care that it’s your husband, only that you’re not allowed to tell him to stop

Apr 15

Listen to Yourself

2:20

Never drink tea unless you really really want to.

May 12

1:54

If you’ve ever been with someone who was a people pleaser, trying to be everything you wanted, and just couldn’t keep up, it’s OK to let them go.

May 10

1:41

Avoiding the Light

The avoidant wants love but love exposes their shadow and they’re more afraid of their shadow

Mar 28

2:41

Avoidance and Abandonment

How a relationship with an avoidant triggers specific wounding to come to the surface to be healed

Mar 6

1:19

Having a broken heart is nothing compared to the pain of ignoring it and pretending it isn’t broken.

Mar 2

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This Valentine’s Day, a shout out to all the first loves who showed us what to look for in the next one. Thank you. ♥️

Feb 14

1:01

I am my own God, not to have power and control over others, but only to liberate myself from the power and control of others.

Feb 12

0:40

Feb 5

Poetry

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The Fairy & The Gargoyle III: The Fairy’s Mirror

Part three tells a bit of the fairy's story, what happened to her after the gargoyle left her at the edge of the forest

Mar 16, 2025

The Fairy & The Gargoyle II: A Gargoyle Wedding

After leaving his fairy at the edge of the woods, a broken hearted gargoyle has been listening to his family, but he's beginning to discover this might…

Dec 10, 2024

The Fairy & The Gargoyle

An allegory for love in a poem, and some thoughts on self love

May 18, 2024

The nameless faceless friend who appears to me in dreams. I don't know who he is, but I know him every time.

Jun 17, 2023

4:39

Melanie’s Wish

A dream about a boy and a girl who knew each other a long time ago.

Jun 10, 2023

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Marital Coercion

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Men Using Sex for Emotional Connection

What this looked like for me with my ex and Navy Guy and how they helped me find center.

Oct 26, 2025

How to Help Him Stop Coercing You

You can't. You can only pull back your energy and let him feel the distance enough that he wants to change on his own. And then take care of yourself.

Jan 1, 2024

Proudly Withholding

How this accusation of withholding sex shaped my sexuality, drove me to impotence, and ultimately became the cornerstone of the house I’ve devoted the…

Sep 18, 2023

Maybe it Wasn’t His Fault

All the ways I defended my ex-husband and the systems that rally around men to make their wives the abuser when she is pushed away by coercion.

Sep 5, 2023

Of Fear & Fawning

When you’ve lost yourself to the will of others and want to find your way back to yourself.

Jun 25, 2023

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