What does it mean for something to "resonate" with you? If a tarot card reader says, "Take what resonates, leave what doesn't," what are they really saying? Let’s take a look at what it means for something to resonate, and how you can take it or leave it.
On TikTok, the psychic community commonly uses the term download to describe psychic information coming to them. If I have a claircognizant knowing, I'm receiving a download that comes in the form of knowledge. If it’s clairvoyant, it’s usually a photograph or video in my mind’s eye.
I cringed at the word download until one day last fall, I had a download of my own about how to describe this for people. This is what my messages are mostly, information to help people process their experiences. My mission in this life seems to be helping people understand things from a different perspective. I use vocabulary to reach the nuance of a situation and come to a different conclusion people may not have seen before.
Where people say download, premonition, or channeled message, I expand on what these things mean to give people a better understanding of the experience. Where people say "men need sex" I explain what this actually looks like within a relationship, describing the pressure this puts on women to meet this so-called need.
To better understand downloads, I was given a picture of a computer operating system in our minds. I saw a desktop or hard drive with a million folders filled with files. Everything you need to know for this life is already built into you. You have a series of folders and files in your body, in your mind, and so-called "psychic" abilities are just the way you access this information.
A psychic may sometimes have information that’s relevant to a “collective” of people who are on a similar journey in life. It’s your job to discern what information is for you and what is for someone else.
When you learn something new, one of three things is likely happening:
If you're in tune with your intuition, you're comparing this new information against your files to judge whether this information is good. You're listening to your body to feel whether or not it resonates with you. You're matching it against the files you have to see if it's true for you.
If you aren't yet good at listening to your intuition, you're likely going to accept this information as true and file it away with everything else.
Or, you may blow off information that is true for you because your worldview—your conditioning—is rejecting it.
If you live at surface level, following the crowd, not listening to yourself, your files may be corrupt because you've accepted something that might not be true for you. This is where I was within Christianity. On some level I knew when things weren't true for me, but two things were going against me at the time:
I was taught that psychic things weren't real, or they were demonic influence.
At the same time, a lot of Christian teaching does resonate for me. The fruits of the spirit, for instance, unconditional love, forgiveness, all the things Jesus taught. This all matched my files.
Without spiritual discernment yet, I was accepting things that didn't resonate with me because of the things that did.
I mixed bad files in with mine because the other files matched.
Discernment is about learning how your computer works, how to discern where these files are located, and how to compare them against the new ones coming in. You can think of other psychics as the IT guy who helps you access those files.
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How to feel when it resonates
Intuition interprets information coming in and compares it against information already there. When the information matches, that's resonance. It resonates because what someone is telling you lines up with—or aligns with—information your mind and body already contain.
An analogy I use on TikTok is trying on clothes. Imagine you're in a fitting room in a store, trying on several outfits. When it fits, it feels good, it looks good, and you just know you want it. When it doesn't fit, it feels uncomfortable or it looks unflattering, and you know you don't want it. Resonance is when something just fits and you know it's right for you.
But if you don't have a solid connection to your intuition, you may find yourself wearing things that don't fit for a number or reasons. Maybe the changing room doesn't have a mirror so you can't see what it looks like. Or you may fall in love with how something looks on the hanger but it doesn't fit. You want it to fit but it doesn't. You might still take it home even though it doesn't fit properly and force yourself to wear it, or leave it sitting in your closet for years because you wanted it to fit so badly.
When something doesn't resonate, you may still want to make it fit. You want it to be true even though your intuition is trying to tell you it's not for you. This can happen when you're looking at someone else's files too.
I regularly tell people on TikTok, "Don't listen to me, listen to yourself," and this is what I'm getting at. When I talk on TikTok or write here and on Threads, I'm sharing information I have in my files. It's not always going to match yours, so it's important for you to pay attention to how what I’m saying feels for you so you're not accepting my truth as yours.
It's important for you to learn how to listen to yourself and learn what it feels like when something resonates. When you go to a friend's house and she offers you something from her closet, you need to know yourself well enough to know when something of hers doesn't fit. You don't want to be walking around in her clothing if it doesn't fit you. Just because it looks good on her, doesn't mean it will be comfortable for you.
Discernment is learning how your body feels, your nervous system specifically. It's listening for butterflies, a headache, or tension in your shoulders, all kinds of feelings that can tell you when something isn't right, or when something feels good. I often feel a warm cheerful feeling when something resonates. When it really resonates, I feel a chill. My body tingles. And extreme resonance for me feels like a shiver. This is very rare, but when I feel it, I know whatever is happening is in perfect alignment with me. This might look different for you. It's up to you to pay attention to your own responses to things you're experiencing.
The important thing is that you're not taking in information that belongs to someone else and adopting this truth as yours own. If you're not listening to yourself, if you don't trust yourself, you will accept what others tell you even when it doesn't feel quite right. This can cause problems in your life as you end up living a life meant for someone else and you're not designed for it.
If you feel like you're failing at life, it's likely not failure at all. It may be that you're trying to open files that don’t belong to you, trying to wear a life that doesn't fit you.
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